Alone refers to a condition of solitude. It gives many a peace of mind; the ability to think things through without interruption. The togetherness sought by many in relationships often does not factor in the need for alone time. People's need to filter out extraneous chatter, sounds, noise, music, or their partner's nagging varies. Some can tune out everything beyond their own thinking and others are unable to achieve such a state.
In counseling couples about to marry or cohabit, the way they set up their space is one of the early aspects on which I have had them focus. Where do they do their thinking? If raised as an only child, spending all one's free time with a partner may present with a need for solitude. Space in mutual living arrangements needs mutual negotiating.
The extent to which you share with one another, or not, may result in being lonely though not alone. Communication is not simply exchanging facts, it shares people's histories day to day lives and emotions.
Merriam Webster defines lonely as being without company. It is easy to see that one can be lonely, even with people around, if their is no interaction or connectedness. Most all bi-polar people I have worked with describe a feeling of loneliness (generally described as in the pit of their stomach) that never entirely disappears, even when with loved ones. That speaks to the source in the brain for emotions as well as the translation in the body by hormones.and neurotransmitters
Creating a life free of loneliness but with some needed solitude should be every one's goal. Time to think, time to play, time to talk to friends and stay in touch with the world beyond their own view.,
In counseling couples about to marry or cohabit, the way they set up their space is one of the early aspects on which I have had them focus. Where do they do their thinking? If raised as an only child, spending all one's free time with a partner may present with a need for solitude. Space in mutual living arrangements needs mutual negotiating.
The extent to which you share with one another, or not, may result in being lonely though not alone. Communication is not simply exchanging facts, it shares people's histories day to day lives and emotions.
Merriam Webster defines lonely as being without company. It is easy to see that one can be lonely, even with people around, if their is no interaction or connectedness. Most all bi-polar people I have worked with describe a feeling of loneliness (generally described as in the pit of their stomach) that never entirely disappears, even when with loved ones. That speaks to the source in the brain for emotions as well as the translation in the body by hormones.and neurotransmitters
Creating a life free of loneliness but with some needed solitude should be every one's goal. Time to think, time to play, time to talk to friends and stay in touch with the world beyond their own view.,
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