Most people find helplessness difficult to accept. They need to impulsively spring into action. Secondly, to be alone is frightening to most of humankind. We are social beings.. Thus, two aids were brought froth by man. A God to whom you can pray for help (then rationalize the response or, the lack of it, to your prayers. The most effective seems to be the coming together of people who have feelings of desperation, rage, loss, fear, or more for a reason to hope. who can come together because houses of worship provide that facility. Group therapy is more personally focused and accomplishes as much or more if well conducted properly..
By lending the sense of helplessness a task through gifts, we can ask why people leave flowers, toys, or stuffed animals at the place where people have died. The purpose is obviously vague since the deceased will never know about it; the living are left to clean it up. On the one hand, we all pay for the public street cleaners as we do after 'ticker-tape' parades or the city Commons celebrations of holidays where trash is left in droves. I always wanted to hang the sign that touched me fifty years ago when I saw, on the wall of the registration counter of the local hospital, which read: "Clean up after yourself; your mother doesn't work here."
Rather than meeting to pray for souls, rationalize the pain of loss away by telling people their loved ones are now in Heaven where they will eventually meet them again for eternity, it would be more effective to meet to plan how to support the living, help those injured (as in Aurora, CO) to survive their injuries both physically and financially. Of those 46 or so injured, I wonder how many will have medical insurance to pay for their treatment, sick leave from jobs to cover them until they can return,.if they can return, or sufficient funds for whatever death (cremation or burial) handling they will require. We all know there is no free lunch but I know of no cost analysis ever done after one of these tragedies. At a time when our politicians are bleeding the poor, one individual has added a great burden to our already overstressed municipal budgets. Not only do the injured require much medical and rehabilitative service, but we must also house the perpetrator, pay the judicial bills for court needs, and then either house him for life if found guilty (I do not know whether Colorado is a death penalty state), treatment if he claims insanity, or the many other requirements that accompany all these cases.
We do not need a minister or priest bellowing to God for us, we simply need to share ourselves to offer whatever ever support for which we are capable whether that is: financial, emotional, or physical.
By lending the sense of helplessness a task through gifts, we can ask why people leave flowers, toys, or stuffed animals at the place where people have died. The purpose is obviously vague since the deceased will never know about it; the living are left to clean it up. On the one hand, we all pay for the public street cleaners as we do after 'ticker-tape' parades or the city Commons celebrations of holidays where trash is left in droves. I always wanted to hang the sign that touched me fifty years ago when I saw, on the wall of the registration counter of the local hospital, which read: "Clean up after yourself; your mother doesn't work here."
Rather than meeting to pray for souls, rationalize the pain of loss away by telling people their loved ones are now in Heaven where they will eventually meet them again for eternity, it would be more effective to meet to plan how to support the living, help those injured (as in Aurora, CO) to survive their injuries both physically and financially. Of those 46 or so injured, I wonder how many will have medical insurance to pay for their treatment, sick leave from jobs to cover them until they can return,.if they can return, or sufficient funds for whatever death (cremation or burial) handling they will require. We all know there is no free lunch but I know of no cost analysis ever done after one of these tragedies. At a time when our politicians are bleeding the poor, one individual has added a great burden to our already overstressed municipal budgets. Not only do the injured require much medical and rehabilitative service, but we must also house the perpetrator, pay the judicial bills for court needs, and then either house him for life if found guilty (I do not know whether Colorado is a death penalty state), treatment if he claims insanity, or the many other requirements that accompany all these cases.
We do not need a minister or priest bellowing to God for us, we simply need to share ourselves to offer whatever ever support for which we are capable whether that is: financial, emotional, or physical.
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