Wednesday, July 14, 2010

WHY DO SOME PEOPLE THINK OF RAPE AS SEX?

Psychology Today at one time ran an article which stated:  "Sex is the most profound and intimate way to express your love for someone. Different people enjoy and pursue sex in different forms—as the pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey put it, the only universal in human sexuality is variability itself. But within the universe of intimacy and pleasure that sex affords is a lot of room for error. Most people are affected by sexual problems at some point in their lives. "


Most definitions have to do with the procreation but in a recent discussion I had with a friend, I realized that to call rape 'sex' is to gift it with pleasant images since most people see sex as closer to the description from Psychology Today.  I offer that rape is a unique physyical violence that, while engaging genitalia, in no way represents the broad spectrum of pleasuarable sex.  To dignify rape by connecting it with that term makes it seem far less offensive than the cruel, painful attack it is to a women who has not been aroused so that the will be lubricated nor receptive within, physically or emotionally.  It is painful, humiliating, subjegating, and may lead to unwanted pregnancy or STDs.  To equate it with sex is a most cruel interpretation, if calling it 'God's will'. To demand that a child be forced to life as a result can only be the opinion of a person who is unable to be comapssionate to mother or child and knows nothing of human emotions.  (Sharron Angle, are you olistening?) 
 
Since I can think of nothing to favor it with approval in any form, I strongly suggest that rape remain a term for a criminal act that can never be associated with the more desirable act of copulation.  To tie it in with the word sex is like calling everything in Nature in the sky as simply 'weather'.  It may hurricane, be without clouds, deluge the earth with floods, but it is all part of the weather.  Using the term weather alone is without giving the listener any sense of a clear description of what is happening in the real world of weather.  I offer that the same is true of granting rape with a connection to sex.
 
Just as a rose is a rose, so rape is rape nd should never be called anything else!

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Hi Eve, this is Irina (the student from a few weeks ago) stopping by to say hi. What a cool blog you have! I will be sure to check it out in the future :)