At our birth, only our parents know who they wish us to be. They start to let us know as soon as we can understand words and unspoken messages. Some of what they may wish for us fits; often it doesn't. This causes confusion because during this process we meet many people we admire and come to believe we are capable of anything we choose.
As teenagers, life has shown us that we can achieve a great deal with talents and intelligence which is proving itself in a school setting; we no longer believe there is nothing we cannot achieve We start limiting our options to more realistic choices. Our health, strength, abilities, talents, finances, exposures are some of the things that might begin to point our future goals to us. Peer pressure is very difficult to resist because was are still looking for the outside to define us. We have learned their is effort behind fulfilling dreams. We are, by now, learning about people, those we like and those we don't. Another step in our growth is understanding the reasons why this happens, why we like some and are liked by some..
We still haven't defined ourselves within. Our sense of self comes from external sources in the form of approval, compliments, friendships, feedback from bosses, teachers, and others whom we admire. It takes some spine to stick to the definition we are carving out for ourselves. If we speak candidly, we are often met with anger. People can be con artists, manipulators, and out-and-outright sociopaths. It takes time,energy, and a systems sense to learn to properly read people. We have, by now, learned the price for lies...our own and those of others...and the importance of using tact because we now are developing an ability to put ourselves, in fantasy, in another person's shoes.We are beginning to learn the rules to acceptable interpersonal behaviors.
To be continued.....
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