FEELING COMPLETE

It took widowhood to teach me that feeling complete happens totally within. While you are in partnership, it is very nice to share tasks, like keeping up the house, shopping, food preparation, kitchen cleanup, cloths washing, both inside and outside maintenance and so much more . Living alone, you get to do it all, by yourself. You can find or hire someone to do it for you, which takes money and effort.

However, there are some hidden pluses to living without that significant other. You, alone, choose what you want to do and are able do. There is no discussing, compromising, arguing or wait for a decision. Though you might have later regrets, you don't even have to be reasonable or responsible. All consequences are up to you and you alone will live with them. You can stay up as late as you wish, get up to your own schedule. You never have to watch a TV show in which you have no interest, nor be interrupted in the middle of one in which you are interested.

You are free to develop lots of friends with different interests who help broaden the scope of subjects by which you grow. You are free to go out whenever you please, alone or with friends, with no one to question your loyalty or actions.

'Do-it-yourself' becomes a way of life. When you accept that you can, you are complete.