It seems that the public and the Legislature view the country as one big bedroom keyhole over which they have the privilege of attaching their eye to it whenever they wish. I for one, object to that 'right to know' before the facts are obtained. The media, in my opinion, has lowered themselves to grabbing onto pure gossip long before it has turned into an actual story with facts and proof. It damages reputations unnecessarily, serving no purpose other than feeding the prurient interests of those who are above using porn for the same purpose.
Too many see adultery ss always the fault of the adulterous spouse. However, it does not fill in a complete picture. If the other spouse remains out of view and not of public interest, it is assumed they are not adulterous...not always the case. Adultery must not be seen (no, I am not advocating it). as simply breaking one of the ten commandments. If a more human and modern interpretation is applied, each situation would tell a totally different story. As a therapist who treated couples for years, I found couples who were not sexually compatible, having dutifully waited until marriage to learn this devastating fact. After several years of marriage one or the other might wonder if this is all there is to sex life and, if a willing partner was available, that research is turned into adultery.
Others may act out in an attempt to learn new sexual techniques, having married with little experience to an equally inexperienced partner. While there are tons of good books to teach people, too many people are loathe to admit to their partners or too themselves that something is missing in that department. Others find themselves married to a frigid woman or an impotent male. When their pheromones get stirred by someone it is too easy to fall into a prone and passionate, adulterous position. I've even watched marriages saved because of adultery, as odd as that may seem by people who love each other but do not find intimacy and sex with their partner possible for them..
The above are buit a few examples. There are as many reasons as there are people. Regardless of the reasons, they are personal to the married partners involved and it should be the business. of no one else. However, the country insists on remaining hypocritical and continues casting stones. If the Legislature wants to know what is going on, they will also have to learn to keep their mouths shut to the media. In the case of General Petraeus, it should not have been made public until there was proof of danger to national security or a crime had been committed. Absentthis information, if the rules of the job prohibit such behavior, it is not a crime and can be handled privately and without the media having their feeding frenzy.
Too many see adultery ss always the fault of the adulterous spouse. However, it does not fill in a complete picture. If the other spouse remains out of view and not of public interest, it is assumed they are not adulterous...not always the case. Adultery must not be seen (no, I am not advocating it). as simply breaking one of the ten commandments. If a more human and modern interpretation is applied, each situation would tell a totally different story. As a therapist who treated couples for years, I found couples who were not sexually compatible, having dutifully waited until marriage to learn this devastating fact. After several years of marriage one or the other might wonder if this is all there is to sex life and, if a willing partner was available, that research is turned into adultery.
Others may act out in an attempt to learn new sexual techniques, having married with little experience to an equally inexperienced partner. While there are tons of good books to teach people, too many people are loathe to admit to their partners or too themselves that something is missing in that department. Others find themselves married to a frigid woman or an impotent male. When their pheromones get stirred by someone it is too easy to fall into a prone and passionate, adulterous position. I've even watched marriages saved because of adultery, as odd as that may seem by people who love each other but do not find intimacy and sex with their partner possible for them..
The above are buit a few examples. There are as many reasons as there are people. Regardless of the reasons, they are personal to the married partners involved and it should be the business. of no one else. However, the country insists on remaining hypocritical and continues casting stones. If the Legislature wants to know what is going on, they will also have to learn to keep their mouths shut to the media. In the case of General Petraeus, it should not have been made public until there was proof of danger to national security or a crime had been committed. Absentthis information, if the rules of the job prohibit such behavior, it is not a crime and can be handled privately and without the media having their feeding frenzy.
